5 Totally Normal Questions Transgender People May Be Afraid to Ask, Answered

Sam writes about hard questions and holding space open.

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One of my favorite concepts that I’ve encountered as an activist is the idea of “holding space.”

To break it down further, “holding space” is about making room for certain experiences, feelings, or perspectives to be acknowledged and affirmed that may otherwise be pushed aside or invalidated.

Holding space can be powerful. I’m a big believer in giving people the space to open up – and in doing so, building greater understandings of where someone is coming from. A little affirmation can go a long way in making someone feel whole.

And one thing that I’ve noticed as a transgender person is that people hold very little space for us.

Society at large has avery particular idea of what the trans experience is – and it doesn’t give us room to have honest, real conversations about what we’re going through, especially when it contradicts this narrative.

This leads us…

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Why the Fairness Doctrine needs to return.

The Otter demands fairness and facts to return.

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I’m old enough to remember the days when the news was simply the news: emotionally detached reporters broadcasted the events of the day without much partisan opinion or editorializing.  When they did, an opposing viewpoint would always be presented.     Sure, mainstream news prior back then could be boring and dry.  Opinion is always based on emotion, and an emotional, sensationalized delivery of the news is more enticing and sells better than the reciting of facts.   Old-school reporters and anchors were well respected even though they never were considered celebrities.

Until the 1980s, American mainstream news was for the most part “fair and balanced,” with only actual facts delivered.  Sure, there were always tabloids that were more sensationalized or opinionated, but they weren’t taken very seriously by most people and even they didn’t usually descend into telling outright lies.   Highly partisan journalism was relegated to op-ed pieces and…

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You Don’t What It Is Like To Be Me

Devon stands and speaks.

Devon J Hall

Screenshot_16This post is dedicated to Heather Heyer, who died on August 12th, 2017, standing up against Nazi Fascists in Charlottesville, Virginia. There are no words to describe the amazing woman you are. Your life was stolen far too early. May you somehow, rest in peace. – Devon

This post may offend some people – even people who call themselves my friend. If you are offended by anything I say please let me know in the comments below. I am open to your thoughts, opinions, and insights. Just be aware I reserve the right to ignore you. 

“I remember being out with my friends, walking past a group of men in robes. The robes were black, one of them looked at me, pushing his hood up ever so slightly, and for the first time in my life, I think – I know I felt fear, I felt evil. I was standing…

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Veronike gives a poem of breakup anyone who has been there will understand.

Thoughts Of A Sunrise


We whispered promises

In the chill of dawn

We traded secrets

As our shadows watched

You erased my transparent sins

You made me feel alive again

And now I’m trying to recall

Why I wait here in the rainfall

I’m trying to recall

Why I wait here in the rainfall

‘Cause as your hands let go of me

I clung to places you might be

Has your hands let go of me?

I still search for you

In the moonlight

I see your fragments

In the outlines

Illuminate my transparent sins

Truth surrounds me

And I find I’m lost again

And now I’m trying to recall

Why I wait here in the rainfall

I’m trying to recall

Why I wait here in the rainfall

Retrace your footsteps

Retrace your mind

Retrace your footsteps

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‘Not All Christians’ needs to go

Sarahbeth Caplin asks more of her coreligionists then “Not All”

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In the next coming days, your social media feeds will likely be inundated with posts from Christians eager to defend their religion against the stain of the white supremacists who stormed Charlottesville, Virgina, this weekend. They’ll use the hashtag #NotAllChristians. They’ll remind you, for the umpteenth time in two thousand years, that “real” Christians aren’t bigoted, and “true” Christians look nothing like those in white hoods.

I will not be one of them.

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Listen up, fake Christians and white nationalists.

The Otter shares some Words some people seem to overlook in their holy book.

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Members of the Ku Klux Klan yell as they fly Confederate flags during a rally at the statehouse in Columbia

The Bible you claim to love so much has a lot to say about racism and the kind of deplorable behavior shown in Charlottesville, Virginia this morning.   Maybe it’s time to admit you’ve been wrong about this, and a lot of other things.


And that’s just for starters.

You are no better than ISIS terrorists.  They think they’re right too.

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Building bridges just to watch them burn . . .

The Quiet Muse writes of building bridges, all too flammable.

The Qwiet Muse

burning match

We’re united in our division.
Someone has to be right,
and someone must be wrong.
Everything becomes a battle
too many are willing to fight.

We try to fill the gaps between us,
hoping one day we will learn,
but every time we build a bridge,
there’s always someone, somewhere,
who simply wants to watch it burn.

Yes, we say we are united
as we draw lines upon the sand.
We gather words as weapons,
forging them from facts we think we know,
then choose a side and firmly make our stand.

Self proclaimed, self -righteous warriors
charge forth with vitriolic indignation,
under the guise of what they believe is right,
without regard for who gets hurt,
their final victim will be our nation.

Us against them and them against us.
Arsenals filled with rhetoric, stats, and lies.
Angry accusations violently explode,
blinding everyone with shrapnel
till they’ve lost sight of…

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Trump’s personality disorder brings out the worst in everyone.

The Lucky Otter makes a good point.

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I think it’s pretty safe to say Donald Trump has a very malignant case of Narcissistic Personality Disorder and appears to fit all of its psychiatric criteria.    Unfortunately, he’s only the tip of the iceberg, merely a symptom of America’s soul-sickness.

Trump has surrounded himself with a staff of other Dark Triad or Cluster B personality-disordered types.   Congress and the Senate are also populated by people who appear to have no conscience or empathy, and only feel entitled to take from others to enrich themselves.    Many of them appear to have antisocial or psychopathic personalities.

Narcissists like Trump become codependent and simpering in the hands of psychopaths, because of their emotional neediness.   Vladimir Putin appears to using him to achieve his own nefarious ends of world domination or at least the destruction of western democracy. Trump, being a narcissist and therefore far more emotionally fragile than…

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I Disappear, For Those About To Rock

Devon on being Devon

Devon J Hall

I have spent the majority of thirty-four years worrying about what people think about me. Every time I write a post and get little more than one comment I worry that I’m doing something wrong with my blog.

Maybe I’m just not smart enough, funny enough, maybe I’m just not “special” enough to have thousands of people responding to my writing.

It hit me only today, I am enough and I don’t need thousands of comments to tell me so. I read blogs but rarely and I don’t often reply, usually because I have little to add to what it is I’ve read.

So why am I being so hard on myself?

I started writing online before it became a thing before it was about branding and making money I was sharing my views of the world, and even in the online world, I am largely a loner.

I’ve always…

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